August 14, 2015

Attitudes Over Oatmeal

After a long day at the office, I stopped by my local health food store. The place is very packed in, lots of people and it is hard to navigate through the funky aisles overstocked with the latest health food fad.

As I stroll up to the breakfast cereal aisle, I see a woman standing on the far side of the aisle appearing not to be doing much. I just glance at her and I figure she must be on her cell phone but to be frank I don’t really notice.
So I go right up to the oatmeal, and I start to read the labels, trying to see what is on sale.
And with my reading glasses on, I need to get as close to the packages as I can.
Yes, I know its only oatmeal – but I haven’t really decided what I want. And these are all smaller, less familiar organic brands.

All of a sudden behind me I hear the woman in a very angry tone “Well, excuse me !”
And I jolt and spin around to see her.
And she appears to be seething in anger at the fact that I blocked her view of the oatmeal.
I say “Oh, I’m sorry – I didn’t realize you were looking over here.”
“Yes, I was looking over there !” she snaps.
And I just mutter “I’m sorry, I’m sorry” and I move out of the way.

A vision flashes through my mind of me ending my evening by getting beaten up in the cereal aisle of the health food store. I just stand by the side of the cereal, away from the lady, somewhat freaked out.
At first I feel really stupid and inconsiderate that I walked right in front of the woman. Of course, thats something I would never do.
And then I am telling myself “What kind of person reads the cereal boxes from all the way across the other side of the aisle?”
For the rest of my grocery shopping, I look for the lady at every turn to make sure I don’t cross her path again.

On the way home, I start to get philosophical about the whole thing. Here were live in a country where we have Abundance and Wealth. We have our choice of 20 different types of oatmeal in a fancy health food grocery store. Yet, its still impossible for people to not get on eachothers nerves. Bumping into eachother, blocking eachothers
way, snapping at eachother over the smallest most innocent misunderstanding.
Why can’t we just let it go, or approach it with humor – or even turn the situation into a chance to chat with a new person. Welcome the opportunity to bump into a new person.
We have all that we need, we are surrounded by it – yet having abundance doesn’t automatically make us better people. We still have to work at it and be aware of our actions.

Of course now that the situation is over, I had a little bit of a more realistic view on my drive home.
I had a hard day at work and was tired. So I wasn’t watching where I was going, and I accidentally stood in front of her.
This lady probably had a hard day at work as well, and was tired also, and so she snipped at me.

And then there is a humorous view of the situation too.
There I was, wearing my reading glasses so I can see the labels – and I have to get as close to the boxes as I can to read them.
She was standing on the other side of the aisle looking at the boxes across the aisle- she probably needs reading glasses, and can only see the labels from far away.
Its too bad we didn’t both calm down, and take a moment to joke about this possibility. Two people both trying to figure out the Oatmeal boxes, with similar yet opposite eye problems.
In this situation, I am really amazed how both of us are very similar.

So since the lady left the store before I did, all I could think to do was ask God to bless her and take care of her. Sending a person blessings will have an amazing effect on them and their life. When you bump into a person, and the situation does not have the best outcome, all you can do it to ask God to bless them.

Books on Amazon

Oatmeal Cookbooks
Attitude Is Everything: Change Your Attitude… Change Your Life!
The Difference Maker: Making Your Attitude Your Greatest Asset
The Be Happy Attitudes

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April 13, 2015

Selfishness and The Higher Self

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Something I heard got me thinking about being Selfish, Self Absorbed and dealing with the spiritual issue of becoming a better person.
I have been listening to a lot of Podcasts on my cell phone lately. And I mean a lot ! Everything from Christian preachers, to New Age Gurus, Self-help single dating advice, Get Rich Quick Schemes, and healthy holistic health advice and who knows what else.
So this evening I was listening to someone whom I thought was going to be a Christian preacher – and it turned out he was from a positive thinking “New Mind for the New Millennium” type of thing. And I am really not used to listening to that type of philosophy, I am more atuned to the tradition Christian concepts. But I figure I can always learn something from someone else, even if it a little bit out of my usual realm of thinking.

I had just left work, and went straight to the nail salon to get a manicure. I told the lady doing my pink nails “I’m going to put my head phones on, okay?”
The guy starts preaching about “The Higher Self”. And he is saying because we are listening to him, and seeking our Higher Self that we are NOT self-absorbed or selfish. That this is a very un-selfish thing to be doing. And all I could think was “Wow I think he’s got this wrong”.

If I was not self-absorbed or selfish, I would be on a dessert island helping Mother Teresa care for sick people.
Or instead of driving to a nail salon after work, I would be heading to a Soup Kitchen on Skid Row to feed the homeless.
(There are wonderful people who do that, you know – after a hard day at the office they hop in their car and drive to a charity to help out. Not nearly enough people do it, but some.)
But here I am, sitting in a Nail Salon in Studio City, getting my nails painted pink, and listening to this Spiritual Speaker on my cell phone podcast, talk about “not being selfish”.
I felt pretty selfish and self-absorbed at that moment. But I realized that its okay.

Being Self Absorbed or Selfish is not necessarily a bad thing. It can be a Positive. You need to take care of yourself. Everyone has their own reality, and some of us need to work through our own stuff and we might have to be Self Absorbed to do it. There is reason to have a “Guilt Trip” over it.
One of my main issues I have come to realize is that I enjoy taking care of other people, more than I enjoy taking care of myself.
That has gotten me in trouble before, when I am out doing things for other people – but the dirty laundry is piled high, theres a sink full of dishes to be done, and I am totally out of toilet paper because I can’t even squeeze in time to stop at the grocery store. Looking at the extra weight I carry, I can seen that as a sign of not being into myself enough. Health issues are a big Red Flag that you need to be more into “you”.

Some times you have to be Selfish. Stop, take time for yourself. Carve out enough time in your day or week when it is You, and only You, on the itinerary.
Which brings me to why going after your “Higher Self” is selfish and self-absorbed. You can’t take care of other people until you take care of yourself first.
Well… you can … but its not healthy or good – especially when done for a long period of time.

Basically we strive to be good and kind, and atuned to our Higher Self – so we don’t get God mad at us, or end up burning in Hell, or we want to have Good Karma. It really takes a wise, mature person who does the right thing just because it is the right thing. Most of us are “being good” for a selfish reason – we don’t want to get in trouble
with the “Powers That Be”. Or we just want to Feel Good. And there really is nothing wrong with that, it is actually the smart thing to do considering the alternative.

Being Self Absorbed and Selfish, does not necessarily mean being Rude or Unkind to other people. (Thats just being an Idiot.)
You can be a Selfish, Self Absorbed and a Good Kind Person all together at the same time.
So go ahead and be Self Absorbed and Selfish when you need to be. It can help you nuture your Higher Self, to become the type of person God intended you to be.
I will continue to listen to spiritual podcasts as I get my nails manicured – now that I think about it, they seem to go together.

Info on the term “The Higher Self” – The Wikipedia Higher Self Page

Books on, just click the link:

The Joy of Me: Uncover Your Loving Self through the Art of Being Selfish

Your Life Isn’t for You: A Selfish Person’s Guide to Being Selfless (BK Life)

Getting Past The Ugly Through The Beauty of Self Love: 30 Devotions for Higher Self Esteem

Mission Possible: Living With Higher Purpose

The Higher Powers of Mind and Spirit

Immortal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self

Mother Teresa – Books and More on Amazon

Higher Self Spiritual Tshirts and Shirts

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